Do You Consider Yourself A Late Bloomer Chad?
When setting up a speaking engagement, one of the sponsors asked me if I thought of myself as a Late Bloomer. I answered the question, but the question stuck with me for the remainder of the day.
Am I a late bloomer?
The question stemmed from the idea that past success means that you have already bloomed.
The speech sponsor told me about a person who went into accounting because his parents told him that he would always have a job if he went into accounting. He built a very successful practice but came to a point where he hated coming into the office. He is now looking for the next thing. The sponsor used the accountant as an example of someone who had succeeded and wanted something new.
Is the accountant a late bloomer? Did he bloom already? Is he a re-bloomer?
The sponsor and I were labeling the accountant a success. The problem is that it is impossible for someone to determine if another person is a personal success. Only the person can determine a personal level of success. Two factors inhibit our ability to determine if another person is personally successful.
1. We project our ideas of success on other people
2. Success is a journey, not a destination.
Projecting our version of success. We see actors and musicians who in our interpretation seem to have all the success in the world, and we are shocked when they are depressed, addicted or in some cases commit suicide. We have projected our ideas of success on their lives. We allow this to be done to ourselves as well, and it hinders our ability to reach a personal level of success. If we follow another person’s projection of success or we lose sight of our definition of success, we can go down a path that does not help us achieve our goals and gives the illusion of personal success to those around us. We can end up confused because we feel that we are not living up to our potential, but people around us are telling us how well we are doing.
Success is a journey. We change over time. Something that we considered a success at one point of our lives may not be at another. The joke about the punishments when we were a kid (staying home, going to your room, taking a nap, etc.) are rewards for adults demonstrates the point. We change over time, and so does our definition of success. If we are going to continue on a success journey, we need to continue to grow and change to keep up with our ideas of success.
Back to the question, am I a late bloomer? Yes, I am. I have had successes in my life, but I am not where I want to be. I have ambitious goals, and it will take a lot of effort to achieve them. I see my future as my bright point. I am building on my past successes to reach my full potential.
Les Brown tells a story about bamboo. The bamboo tree takes five years to grow but does not break through the ground until the fifth year at which point it grows to its full height in a short period of time. We can be the same. We have built our roots over time, and it is time for us to bloom.
For more ideas on how you can achieve your goals, read “late Bloomer, It’s not too late to achieve your goals!”